Speak Up!

By Cheryl Mattox Berry

Why are women so afraid to say something when they’re treated unfairly?

That’s the question that keeps running around in my head as the media report cases of sexual harassment in the workplace. It seems that many of these women suffered in silence until someone else stepped forward.

The reasons given for not reporting offensive behavior are fear of job loss and increased aggression by the accused, and doubt that management would believe them. These are legitimate concerns, but at some point you have to put on your big girl panties and speak up.

I find it ironic that we march up to the school and complain loud and long when we think a teacher, principal or another student has mistreated our child but won’t do the same for ourselves. Employ that same sense of outrage to address work-related issues, such as sexual harassment.

It pains me to hear stories about how badly some women are treated by their bosses and co-workers. I always ask, “Why don’t you say something?” The response is usually a shrug and a comment that she isn’t like me. (FYI: I’m not afraid of anyone and speak my mind.)

Feeling like a victim can lead to depression, stress, high blood pressure and a myriad of other health problems that ultimately affect your job performance.

If you haven’t told anyone about unwanted sexual advances, here are some ways to handle the situation. First, tell a co-worker what has been going on and explain how it makes you feel. This is the next best thing to having an eyewitness. Then, report the predator to your supervisor.

Chances are you’re not the only target. Ask around to see if other women have had similar experiences. Gather these women and go to your supervisor as a group to lodge a complaint. There is power in numbers, and this approach keeps you from being singled out by the offender if that is a concern.

If no corrective action is taken, go to the next level of management and keep going higher until you get results, even if means filing a complaint with the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

Use your voice, and take back your power!