By Cheryl Mattox Berry
If we could get rid of bad stuff in our lives as easy as the folks in the TV commercial for the letgo app, life would be a lot easier.
Unfortunately, we have to work hard at removing obstacles that keep us from being our best selves, but It can be done with discipline and determination. As we approach Easter, the message of resurrection and hope should fuel our desire to do better and be better people. That often means letting go of bad habits, bad people and bad activities.
Are there some things on the list below that you should let go?
- Unhealthy romantic relationships
- Toxic friends
- Poor eating habits
- Meddling
- Lying
- Mismanaging your money
- Jealousy
- Spreading rumors
- Procrastination
- Alcohol and drugs
It’s difficult to look at ourselves objectively and admit faults. If you don’t think you have any, ask your BFF whether you fit into any of the categories above. Be prepared for the truth. When you hear it, don’t be defensive. Ask for examples. Sometimes, you get into the habit of doing something and don’t realize it’s a bad thing.
With this new information, develop a detailed plan for how you’ll let go. For example, if you tend to fall into relationships with the same type of no-good man, you need to accept the fact that you’re the problem and need to be more selective.
Try this exercise. Write down the qualities you desire in a man, i.e., sense of humor, shared values, hardworking, Christian, etc. Now that you know what you’re looking for, don’t settle for anything less because you’ll end up unhappy and alone – again.
Keep the list in your phone and refer to it when you meet someone new. Look for a soul mate the same way you shop for a car or house – long and hard until you find one just right.
Remember: When you let go of something, you’re not losing that thing, you’re allowing yourself to construct a healthier lifestyle.
Yes, letting go is difficult, but realizing the need to let go is the first step. When you commit to a change understand that it will take time. You didn’t develop poor eating habits or toxic relationships overnight or without something in your life that led to them. Honest self evaluation must be practiced so it becomes second nature. You can’t continue to fool yourself unless you are a fool.