Be Your Own Woman, Beholding to Nobody

V. Stiviano
V. Stiviano

By Cheryl Mattox Berry 

If you follow some of the women on reality TV and those in the headlines (V. Stiviano/LA Clippers controversy,) they would have you believe that the key to fame and fortune is a rich man. So what if he’s married, go after him anyway. Better yet, have a baby by him and flaunt your innocent child in front of the cameras.

These narcissistic women may appear to have it all – designer clothes, sports cars and front row seats at major events – but don’t be fooled. There’s a price to be paid for being arm candy.

No. 1, you can be bounced just like that (finger snap) for a younger, cuter and skinner model. Poof! It’s all gone without even a text. All you have are Instagram photos and last season’s clothes, scrambling to hook up with someone else before the bills start rolling in. You go from being a kept woman to a desperate woman.

That is no way to live: dependent on someone else for food, clothing, shelter and transportation, suppressing your wants and thoughts, subjecting yourself to his whims and worrying about it all disappearing?

If you think a wealthy man is your ticket to the top, think again. That plan is badly flawed. A better strategy: Aspire to be a successful woman. Map out a plan to make it on your own so that you can pay your own bills and have equal status in a personal relationship.

That might take longer than it does to snare a Sugar Daddy because there are no shortcuts to success. Dedication + discipline + determination = SUCCESS. It requires education, hard work and paying your dues.

The road is fraught with disappointments, failures and setbacks. But if you don’t give up, you’ll get there. People might try to block your path, but they’ll never be able to take back the knowledge you gained in college or your degree. With them, you can go far and not be beholden to nobody.

Or you can be that girl who looked crazy on TV, trying to convince viewers that she’s a highly paid personal assistant, not a prostitute. It’s your choice. Choose wisely.

 

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